I am sure you must be thinking here comes another to do lists of ‘what to do’ and ‘what not to do’ in parenting. If am right, then you can relax, because this article is definitely not a free advice or tips on parenting which we could find plenty in many websites all over the internet. While we all agree that parenting is the toughest job, doing it right and being an ideal parent is a dream come true because we see results of what we do or did for our children when they grow up.
I, on the other hand, find it so difficult sometimes wondering what is the right way in everything we do? When I became a mother, I never knew how things would be. I thought the baby stage will pass and it will be easier when my child starts to walk and talk. When that time came I thought, it might be better once my daughter starts going to school and I will get some ‘me’ time. Now, am thinking that probably it might be bit easier when she grows to an age where she will be able to take her own responsibilities. Because this phase of school going age seems the toughest of all or so it seems yet! Am hoping mothers out there with more experience than me to assure it’s not tough as they grow. (Something tells me that’s not the case because we mothers cannot stop worrying at any age, yeah?)
Here is one such scenario between me and my daughter a few days back.
The school reopened after a lengthy (although it was the usual summer vacations, it did feel too long) holidays and my daughter had a lot of stories to tell me the first day when she was back home from school. While I kept listening to her, I noticed that in two months of not going to school, she lost the habit of putting her uniform neatly to a cloth hanger and instead she threw it on her bed. I pointed it out to her. Immediately, her reply was “you do it all the time and why was it wrong for me to do the same”. While I did ask her to do what is right then, I did realize my mistake too. Alright! I’m not a shabby person as it sounds here, but we mothers do have moments where it feels good to just be that careless and enjoy some me time. Sigh! But sometimes that might be a mistake around a growing child.
Someone said it right, “children do learn from us”. There were occasions when I did the same mistake and like any other child who are most observant especially about what their parents do and act, my daughter too has picked up on this habit within no time at all. As I said, you must have noticed children are fast in picking that one single bad habit in us which, we don’t want them to learn. Alas! If only we can change.
Correction – I decided to be careful in keeping my closets neat and not get careless so that my daughter makes it a habit of keeping her things in order.
Similarly, there are many such situations that we find our kids pointing out our mistakes when we ask them to do things right. I do understand that none of us can be a perfect person with all saint like habit’s but it is important to teach values to our children and make them learn good habits at a young age by simply we doing them in a right way.
Sometimes there are certain situations for we elders can learn from our kids who unknowingly might teach us many things with their innocent minds and thoughts. While I teach to my daughter, there are moments I learn too and everyday its a new learning. Hence, there is not a single moment I regret.
Each of you might have different experiences, not just as a mother, but also being a father. Let’s hear some of it in the comments section just so I can be reassured that am not the only fish in the pond.