My mom My Inspiration

My mother is my inspiration. I lost my mom when I was 27. I was married and had a kid who was 10 months old at that time. I am glad that my mom held my baby in her arms before God took her away from us. We were from the middle class Indian family. Dad had a transferable job and we moved from one place to another once in every 3 years. This made us visit various places and get to meet different people. She is the one who inspired me to study well and achieve success in life. My mother was a friendly lady and was down to earth.  She was liked by all in my family for her humble nature.

There is a saying that goes, “No one can replace a mom”. Yes, everyone feels that no matter what age we are, we need mom to be by our side. I was not so fortunate in this case. I could not imagine a single day without my mom and now I have been living without her, for nearly 10 years. Losing a parent at any age is difficult to cope up with.

My mother did not desire for any higher education for herself, though she was a graduate. But, she always wanted my brother and I study well. We were made to focus only on studies. My dad would tell us that our studies will always help us in future. It is the foundation for our successful life. When I was doing my post-graduation, my mom wished that I top the University and get a gold medal. I told her as “no mother would wish like how you wish mom, it’s not going to happen”. She taught me ‘nothing is impossible. You need to strive to reach your goal. Keep in mind that you are what you think you are’. I was really not so serious about this, but my mom had that confidence in me that I would achieve what she wished. I studied hard, tried my best. Then there was this moment in my life, when it was announced in our college that I have received a gold medal for standing first in University. Our joys had no bounds. I totally dedicate my achievements to my parents. They were the one who encouraged me in gaining the success they always wished. The moment, when your parents are proud of your achievement, is an awesome feeling. My mom’s wishes, prayers and my dad’s support along with my brother’s encouragement became my pillar of strength.

My mother was diagnosed of terminal lung cancer. This happened the year after my brother and I had completed our studies. It was really difficult to come to terms with life when you know that a family member is suffering. One year passed by chemotherapy sessions, the visits to hospitals, the pain my mother had, the trauma. After a year of chemotherapy sessions, the doctors told us that my mother had not responded for any medication and that there is no hope.

It was 13 May 2007, “Mothers’ Day”. The whole world was celebrating this day. There were many messages in News Papers and television, about a mother and feelings attached towards it. Our whole family was together on that day. We were planning to go out for a pizza. I asked my mother, if she wants to eat a pizza. She said, ‘get me one, I‘d love it’. Though she was bed ridden, she was very cheerful. She looked at ease and did not show any signs of difficulty. Suddenly, she began gasping; I was there right next to her. But, unfortunately, it was her last day.

Initially it was difficult for me to spend every minute without my mother’s presence and it took a long time to even realize that she is no more with us, but we all had a life to live on and we took strength from each other. Losing a parent is difficult for anyone, and it is the near and dear one’s that matters in such times to draw up strength and move on.

Here are a few ways that could be helpful to cope in similar situation, although I will not expect this situation to anyone.

  1. Spend time with family; help each other in coming back to terms.

This is the time when our family needs us. Our family was shattered; however, we had to get over the loss of our mother. We all stayed with each other and helped to get over the loss.

  1. Change of Environment

If possible, take the spouse to a different place for some time. In this way with new surroundings, they will be able to come to normal life. After few months of my mother’s demise, my brother took my dad to London. They stayed there for a year. It was at this time, that dad managed to stay without mom and he got adjusted to the life.

  1. Develop a new hobby

Hobbies like painting, gardening, cooking or anything that keeps you busy. I was not a good cook. Now, I started to learn cooking and tried new recipes. As I had a little child, spending time with her also gave me solace.

  1. Learn a musical instrument – it helps to soothe the mind.
  2. Learn yoga or meditation.

Today mom is not among us, but her presence is always felt. I am happy that at least she was satisfied in life and must be at peace somewhere. I am now a mom of two and wish, I too become an inspiration for my kids one day. I have made a promise to myself, that I would be conscious of my health and try to be active and be with my kids till they are well settled in their life.

 

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5 Reasons Why You Should Own a Dog

We are a nuclear family and my daughter is the only child we have. She being the only child, I need not have to explain her ways of pestering for a sibling or for a pet. Finally, we gave in for a pet, although I and my husband were totally against having any pets at home. It was the previous year 2015 when we bought a cute Pug puppy as a gift for my daughter’s 10th year birthday.

We named him Bruno. Well! As far as a name goes, he got plenty of names now, and every single name makes him. Initially, when he came to us, he was just 38 days old baby and he became one of us very soon. We never knew owning a dog can be this wonderful. They are such innocent animals, who might not talk or demand anything. Although if you ask a pet owner, they will definitely agree with me that after staying together over a certain period of time, we pet owners, actually start understanding our pet language and needless to say they understand us better.

Bruno

Hey All, I’ am Bruno!

So, if someone asks me should they own a pet, I will say definitely Yes! Provided, there are proper resources and people to take care of your pet. Here are five reasons as why you should own a dog in case if you ever find yourself in confusion.

1.Dogs Help to Improve Your Mood

Dogs make us feel better with just their presence. At times when we are in a bad mood, all we need is someone beside us and a shoulder to lean on. Not, someone who tells us where we are wrong or what we need to do. Dogs are excellent companions to give you that attention when you are in a terrible mood and make you feel better within no time dragging you down to play. What can we say, they are cute in their own smart way!

2.Improves Your Wellness and Fitness

Am waiting buddy! Let's go out for a walk.

I’ am waiting buddy! Let’s go out for a walk.

Dogs are the most active animals and if you want them to be happy, they need their regular exercise and timely walks and also playtime. Taking your pet for daily walks and spending some time with them to make them play not only keeps them fit but also makes you healthy. Trust me, playing with your pet also puts your entire family in a good mood. Being happy and cheerful improves health and keeps us fit.

3. They are the best watchdogs

Paying that hefty salary to a watchman, who sits in a corner and dozes off is totally a waste of money when you can own a well-trained watch dog. Some of the breeds are trained to watch and be alert and take action and these dogs are the best, which stays on guard every second when it’s on duty. All you need to pay them is good food and some love and appropriate exercise with training. Not too much to ask when they can guard us 24/7 isn’t it?

4.Improves Social Interactions

Since I have Bruno with us, I have found myself in some of the various socializing pet groups sharing about him and I really have no idea how I landed there. But through this social interaction of similar feelings of having a pet and knowing how it makes me feel, I have made a couple of good friends too. It’s not only we, who need social interaction, but dogs need them too. In an effort, when you own dogs, you meet new pet owners to make your pet meet other pups and animals. Thereby, increasing your social circle.

5.No more boring days

Hiding under the cot

Hiding under the cot

I know, having a pet can be challenging sometimes. The endless cleaning, the endless chasing while they run with the things in their mouth, which they are not suppose to get a hold in the first place, the time spent for grooming while some of them hate it. Especially my Bruno, when I want to clean the folds of his nose and cheek, as he being a pug, it needs to be done every day and he extremely hates it, pushing my hands away and hiding wherever possible. So in a way, dogs keep you busy and makes your day more entertaining and there is never a boring time.

There are many other reasons and am sure you will know them when you finally bring home that cute little one asking you to give him or her a home. They are a bundle of joy!!

If you already own a pet dog, or have any experience or like to share anything regarding pets share your thoughts in comments.

Our Life, Our Environment

A little girl wrote a letter to the Sun.

Dear Sun,

It is very hot on Earth. Could you please reduce the heat here?

 

With love,

Your friend.

 

To this the Sun replied

 

Dear friend,

I have been giving out the same heat for a long time. Please make sure you do not cut trees on Earth. Plant more trees if you want shade and want to be cool. I am helpless my dear friend.

 

With Love,

Sun

 

It is summer here in Hyderabad. Each summer we get to read the news that we have reached the maximum temperature not recorded in the history of this place in many years. This is the same story each year. Today morning I read in the newspaper that some 3100 trees will be cut to make way for a road in the heart of the city. We hardly have any greenery inside the city and the only one that was existing will now be reduced to dust. It feels disgusting to read such articles in newspapers. If this keeps going on we shall in near future see trees and plant in museums. Why don’t we learn from the mistakes we do? Why do we repeat the same mistakes that we had committed earlier? When will there be learning about the environment? Already many countries have realized the importance of saving the environment. Many have started to use the available renewable energy. We too have to start looking at this perspective.

Whenever it is summer we are constantly feared that we may not get water. Each year we read news about the level of the ground water reduced.  Nothing much is being done to save water. Rivers are drying, lakes are dying. Imagine the plight of animals living out in this scorching sun. I sometimes wonder why people are so selfish.  They are always thinking about themselves and not others. It is everybody’s duty to save the environment so that little girls and boys of today will have a good future to live on this earth.